When I got to 40 or so... I had the sense when I looked back over my life I would actually see a mess of decisions, a few of which I had thought about, some of which I had sort of stumbled on, and many that I had no control over whatsoever.
The world is full of people who will tell you what you can't do. You don't need them. You already know what you can't do. What you need is someone to tell you what you can.