Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
沟通“三”原则,要找到真相,让别人比他们之前说的更深一些,一次、两次、三次的重复这个过程,第三次你就接近真相了。
Nowadays, particularly in the United States, if you meet someone at the bottom of society, they may unkindly be described as a "loser." There's a real difference between an unfortunate and a loser, and that shows 400 years of evolution in society and our belief in who is responsible for our lives. It's no longer the gods, it's us. We're in the driving seat.
生命的真相不在于宏大的事件,而在于那些安静的间隙。