And the thing about a successful life is that a lot of the time, our ideas of what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They're sucked in from other people; chiefly, if you're a man, your father, and if you're a woman, your mother. Psychoanalysis has been drumming home this message for about 80 years. No one's quite listening hard enough, but I very much believe it's true.

大胆梦想，敢于失败。

译文：是男人就该绝境求生，怎么能坐着等死?

The well bred contradict other people.The wise contradict themselves.

"The act of reading is an act of empathy, of seeing the world through someone else's eyes."