People can't do something by themselves; they wanna tell you you can not do it.
礼义廉耻,可以用来要求自己,不可用来要求别人。要求自己则能少犯过失,要求别人则难以与人和睦相处,难以与他人相处就不合乎处世之道。所以君子只严格要求自己,小人则对别人求全责备。
一本好书是通往另一个世界的门。