Children have real understanding only of that which they invent themselves, and each time that we try to teach them something too quickly, we keep them from reinventing it themselves.
When I got to 40 or so... I had the sense when I looked back over my life I would actually see a mess of decisions， a few of which I had thought about， some of which I had sort of stumbled on， and many that I had no control over whatsoever.
