The ability to be alone is the ability to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those who can be alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another human being—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

真正的老师会保护学生免受他个人影响。他激发自信。他将他们的目光从自己引导到激励他的精神。他不会拥有门徒。

对性情上了解即是涵养，对每一念头注意提醒就是省察，气质的融汇就是克治。