性情圆融随和的人没有诡诈的神态,精明细心的人没有苛刻审查的心思,行为方正的人没有乖戾的行为,沉默的人没有陰险的手段,诚信笃实的人没有无能的牵累,光明正大的人没有肤浅的缺点,刚直的人没有性情上的偏失,果决的人没有拘泥的毛病,达练的人没有轻浮的外貌。
In other words, hold your horses when you're coming to judge people. You don't necessarily know what someone's truevalue is. That is an unknown part of them, and we shouldn't behave as though it is known. There is another source of solace and comfort for all this. When we think about failing in life, when we think about failure, one of the reasons why we fear failing is not just a loss of income, a loss of status. What we fear is the judgment and ridicule of others. And it exists.