The stranger is an element of the group itself, not unlike the poor and sundry 'inner enemies'—an element whose membership within the group involves both being outside it and confronting it.

如果他没有伤害我的自尊，我是可以容忍他的傲慢的。

如果你不喜欢某件事，就改变它。如果你无法改变它，就改变你的态度。