The problem of modern society is it turns the whole world into a school. Everybody's wearing jeans, everybody's the same. And yet, they're not. So there's a spirit of equality combined with deep inequality, which can make for a very stressful situation.
Generally speaking, envy, resentment, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thoughts.Self-pity gets fairly close to paranoia, and paranoia is one of the very hardest things to reverse.