The nightmare thought is that frightening people is the best way to get work out of them, and that somehow the crueler the environment, the more people will rise to the challenge. You want to think, who would you like as your ideal dad? And your ideal dad is somebody who is tough but gentle. And it's a very hard line to make. We need fathers, as it were, the exemplary father figures in society, avoiding the two extremes, which is the authoritarian disciplinarian on the one hand, and on the other, the lax, no-rules option.

每一颗播种的种子都是对后代的承诺。

【原文】宰予昼寝。子曰：“朽木不可雕也，粪土之墙不可圬也，于予与何诛?”【译文】宰予白天睡觉。孔子说：“真像腐朽的木头一样无法再雕琢，像粪墙一样不能再粉刷了，对于宰予这个人，我还责备他什么呢?”孔子又说：“开始时我对于人，是听了他的话就相信他的行为；现在我对于人，是听了他的话，还要观察他的行为。宰予使我改变了观察人的方法。”

Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality.

没有自由，美德就无法存在。