Truth never damages a cause that is just.
"You should never be surprised when someone treats you with respect, you should expect it."
There's a real correlation between a society that tells people that they can do anything, and the existence of low self-esteem. So that's another way in which something quite positive can have a nasty kickback. There is another reason why we might be feeling more anxious --about our careers, about our status in the world today, than ever before. And it's, again, linked to something nice. And that nice thing is called meritocracy.
"We are all patchwork, and so shapeless and diverse in composition that each bit, each moment, plays its own game."