The ability to be alone is the ability to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those who can be alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another human being—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

【译文】树应该遗憾自己的枝上长不出叶子，不要抱怨太阳偏心眼。人的一切都是命中注定的，一星半点也由不得自己。