Sometimes you have to lose yourself to find yourself.
孔子说:“陪君子说话要注意三种毛病:没到说的时候就说,叫做急躁;到该说的时候不说,叫做隐瞒;不顾对方的表情就说,叫做睁眼瞎。”
Peace is not free, it requires constant effort to maintain.