The ability to be alone is the ability to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those who can be alone are able to love, to share, to go into the deepest core of another human being—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

你透露得越少，人们就越会好奇。

孔子说：“如能致富，哪怕是赶车，我也干；如不能，则随我所好。”

Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, the power to retell it, rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it, and change it as they change, truly are powerless, because they cannot think new thoughts.