Problem-solving often requires restructuring one's mental representation of the situation.
当事人应置身于利害之外,提出倡议的人则应设身于利害之中,才能知道利害得失。
When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good!
一个有趣的悖论是:当我接受自己的本来面目时,我就能改变。