Make decisions when you are ready, not under pressure. Others will always push you to make a decision for their own purposes, internal politics, or some other external need. But you can almost always say, “I need a little more time to think about this. I’ll get back to you.” This tactic is very effective at defusing even the most difficult and uncomfortable situations.

一本伟大的传记是一种朝圣，走在别人的足迹中，同时试图理解他们的灵魂。

It is much easier to change how you think by changing your behavior， than it is to change your behavior by changing how you think. Act out the change you seek.