“和善而坚定”能决定我们对孩子管教的成功与失败。

In studying the history of the human mind one is impressed again and again by the fact that the growth of the mind is the widening of the range of consciousness, and that each step forward has been a most painful and laborious achievement. One could almost say that nothing is more hateful to man than to give up even a particle of his unconsciousness. Ask those who have tried to introduce a new idea!

在对人类心理史的研究中，这一事实给人以深刻印象：心智的成长就是意识范围的扩展，前进的每一步都是伴随着极度痛苦和艰难的成就。几乎可以说，人们最最痛恨的就是放弃潜意识，即使所放弃的仅是极微小的一点潜意识。试图引入新观念的人对此深有体会。

荣格

天外黑风吹海立，浙东飞雨过江来。

苏轼

I just go. I just go. I just keep going until it feels right to me,” Kobe says of his habits. “If something doesn’t feel right, I’m gonna stay there until I get it right. I just continue to keep pushing and pushing and pushing. That’s all I’ve known. That’s how my parents raised me. If you’re going to be focused on something, if you want to do something, you can’t, you can’t go about it in a half-assed way. You really gotta dedicate yourself to it, try to be the best at it. That’s the only way.

我只是不停地训练，不停地训练，直到我满意为止。如果我感觉一些东西不对，我会呆在那不停地训练，直到我做到对为止。我只是不停地激励自己，不停地激励自己。这是我很了解自己的地方，也是父母教育我的东西。如果你要专注于某些事情，如果你想要做某些事情，你可不能半途而废，你得倾注你全部精力去完成那些事，尽力去完美地完成那些事。这就是事情解决的唯一途径。