Nowadays, particularly in the United States, if you meet someone at the bottom of society, they may unkindly be described as a "loser." There's a real difference between an unfortunate and a loser, and that shows 400 years of evolution in society and our belief in who is responsible for our lives. It's no longer the gods, it's us. We're in the driving seat.

想治理国家，首先要先去治民。治民要先正己，做好治家的工作，把自家子弟教育好了，自己就会以身作则；只有做到先正自己，才能在治民方面起到带头作用。只有先做好自己，才能为别人带好头和榜样；只有先身体力行才能有好作用榜样示范作用。这才是真正有意义的治理国家的好方法。只有先立好自己的身才能对社会起到好的表率作用。

Silence is a virtue, but silence in front of someone you like is cowardice.