谦逊退让，是全身避祸的首要方法；从容稳重，是立身处世的首要方法；涵养包容，是屈己待人的首要方法；洒脱不拘，是养心全性的首要方法。

The only relationship that can make both partners happy is one in which sentimentality has no place and neither partner makes any claim on the life and freedom of the other.

伟大的本质在于认识到美德就足够了。