The ability to be alone is the ability to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it's not. It is an existential truth: only those who can be alone are able to love, to share, to go into the deepest core of another human being—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

I'm not sad. I'm not happy. I'm just here.

解释：君子有三件值得可惜的事：一辈子不学习，是第一件可惜的事；一天无所事事，是第二件可惜的事；一个人的名声败坏，是第三件可惜的事。