In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?
我不让恐惧阻止我，我让它推动我。
It's on the strength of observation and reflection that one finds a way. So we must dig and delve unceasingly.
The choice for mankind lies between freedom and happiness and for the great bulk of mankind, happiness is better.